It’s the age-old topic of argument – spending your dough on the ladies in exchange for (or in hopes of) getting some action. Of course, there is some validity to it – women are naturally attracted to security and resources as much as men are naturally attracted to perky boobs and tanned legs. But are lavish dates and shelling out the coin truly the best way the get the best ladies?
What does flaunting money get you?
For one, it gets you attention, no doubt about it. For two, it gets you followers. Let’s face it – people are attracted to shiny shit, and they will happily ride the money train as long as the doors are open. If a 4’ tall witchy-looking lass hit me up with “Yo sexy, wanna come on an all expenses paid, champagne flowing, trip to Italy?” – I’d say yes. But would I fuck the midget? No. No I would not. Would I even follow up and see her again? Yeah nah.
Given, that’s a weird hypothetical, but it explains an important point – don’t mix up attention with attraction.
If you’re throwing your cash at girls, of course they will follow you. Who wouldn’t? And they’re probably also going to blow rainbows up your arse to keep that cash tap flowing. But does this mean they will fuck you? Maybe, depends on the girl and if she sees it as worth the exchange. But obviously, and as cliché as it is – are they banging you or your wallet? Does she actually *gasp* like you for you, or is she and all her gold-digging equipment, actually blocking the doorway for a woman who would, you know – actually contribute to your life, rather than just suckling from it?
Sometimes less is more
I once coached a huge property guy in Melbourne. I’m talking wealth to randomly buying a city apartment on a morning walk. Yet he played his money down. He never mentioned it. He was careful about taking girls to his house, or them finding out about his business life. But even so – did his value radiate from him? Hell yes. Within a month he had women fighting over him. Because he was rich? No. Because was awesome. He knew his value, he knew his lifestyle, he knew what he was brining to the table – he didn’t need to bribe women like some needy trust fund baby.
Compare this to another chap who comes to mind – one that I had the pleasure of meeting one night long ago in a bar in the city. My female friend had to deal with him waffling on about his wealth, job and water front apartment. She was happy to take share his cocaine (outside in his BMW, of course), but it reached a point where even that wasn’t enough and she bolted, leaving old mate scratching his head.
Laying a bad foundation
Love, sex and connection are not things that you should have buy or bribe from a woman; those things should be mutually beneficial things. If you’re buying her time, her vag, her affection – what foundation does that set for the relationship? You’ve just slotted yourself into the provider role. Cool, but when ovulation hits, it’s not you that her animalistic brain is making her crave – trust me, I see it every weekend when the dolled up housewives of Melbourne come out to play.
Money can’t buy you sexiness.
This foundation doesn’t help you, and it certainly doesn’t help her. How can you help a woman grow and develop is if she just lives a perfectly coushy life with your coin? Ronda Rousey has awesomely founded the “Don’t be a Do Nothing Bitch” movement. She gets it. The “DNB” in the long-run will likely end up crying on the couch, longing for her slimmer glory days, desperately trying to prevent her husband from upgrading with a newer purchase.
So how to go about things?
Go about things how you like, I’m not here to tell anyone how to live. If you want to Bilzerian it up, awesome. But if you want girls that you can actually tolerate the company of after you cum? It’s probably not the best strategy.
Personally, I think a chill normal date is the way to start. A drink, a coffee – boring you say? Well it is if YOU’RE boring.
Money can’t make you interesting.
If you’re awesome and you click – that’s all you need. Who you are, the success you’ve had, the money sitting in your bank account – you’d be surprised at how much this shows through. And a real charmer doesn’t make a big deal of it.
The take home …
Be awesome. Don’t buy girls. If you’re dating a girl and she is awesome – buy her cool shit, take her cool places, do cool things with her. Treat her like a queen. Your queen. But don’t bride her into a relationship with you. Don’t bribe sex out of her. You’re better than that.