How to Add Variety to Sex & Spice Things Up

This is a guest post by Dave Perrotta, the founder of


Variety is the spice of life, and as it turns out, it’s also the spice of the bedroom.

It’s important both within each individual sex session, as well as over the course of all of your sex sessions in a relationship with a girl.

You shouldn’t be doing the same things for the duration of every sex session. This will quickly get boring for both you and the girl you’re having sex with. It’ll just be so damn predictable. Nor should you do the same things over the course of multiple sex sessions in a relationship.

The same positions, the same time, and the same location. Eventually, sex will stop being fun.

But when you add variety, you can keep sex interesting and exciting, continue to have great sex even if you’ve been with a girl for a long time, and make sex more adventurous and enjoyable for yourself.

Luckily, it’s quite easy to add variety, and there are plenty of ways to do it.

Here’s how you can add more variety to sex:

Use Different Sex Positions

You should switch positions every 5 – 10 minutes or so if you want to keep sex fun and interesting. This gives you enough time to enjoy the position and get into a good rhythm, but it’s not so long that it starts to get boring. After 5 – 10 minutes, switch to another position and keep it going.

(For positions where you expend more energy, like if you fuck her while holding her up, you can go less than 5 minutes. Otherwise, you might tire yourself out too quickly.)

Here are a few unique positions to add to your arsenal:

  • Reverse cowgirl. She rides you while facing the opposite direction.
  • Sideways doggy style. When fucking her doggy style, flip her to her side and continue penetrating her (keep your body in the same position as regular doggy style).
  • Mirror doggy style. This is the standing up version of doggy, except it’s enhanced with the help of a mirror.  The mirror is great because it allows you to see each other’s expressions and full bodies.

Time of Day

What time of day do you usually have sex? For most people, it’s later on in the evening. There’s no problem with that, but it’s also good to switch it up once and while.

For example, if you usually have sex in the evening, have sex the next morning too. Or do it on your lunch break, or even in the middle of the night when you can’t sleep.

When you switch up the time of day, then sex becomes less predictable and a bit more exciting.


Switch up the amount of time you have sex.

If you usually fuck your girl for 30 minutes to an hour, then you can surprise your girl with a 5 minute “quickie” before she goes to work.

Or, you can go for two hours and have a marathon sex session.

Watch Porn

This is a great way to spice things up.

It helps to have a laptop, flat screen TV, and HDMI cable to make the experience more immersive.

Get naked, lay on the bed with your girl, and type in your favorite porn site. Spend some time watching and enjoying the porn together. The two of you can masturbate next to each other too.

Then, when you actually have sex soon after, you’ll both be extremely turned on. You can leave the porn on in the background, as the background moans add a nice touch to the sexual experience with your girl.

Use Toys

Go to an erotica store with your girl and shop for sex toys.

Dildos, vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, blindfolds, etc. There are plenty of tools you can use to spice things up.

For example, when fucking her doggy style, you can reach around and put the vibrator against her clit for extra stimulation.

You can also do things like handcuff her to the bed and watch her masturbate with a dildo. Use your imagination!

Amount of Foreplay

Foreplay is great, and you should do it most of the time. It revs up you and your girl and sets the stage for great sex. But you don’t need to go through the full spectrum of foreplay (i.e. sexual massages, fingering, cunnilingus) before every sex session. In fact, occasionally it’s good to skip it altogether and get right to the sex.

This will make your sex sessions less predictable, and it’ll also make foreplay more enjoyable when you do it, because she won’t be sure if it’ll happen 100% of the time. (For some cunnilingus tips, also check out this article).

Amount of Skin-to-Skin Contact

Skin-to-skin contact increases the intimacy, pleasure, and passion during sex. But if you’re always making skin-to-skin contact, then it’ll become predictable and the pleasure derived from it will fade.

So, add variety here. For the majority of time you can use positions with lots of skin-to-skin contact, and sometimes you can pull away and go for positions with less (or barely any) skin-to-skin contact.

Then, when you switch back from minimized skin contact to maximized contact, you’ll enhance the pleasure derived from that contact.


Most people usually just have sex in the bedroom – but again, if you do this every time, it’ll start to get boring.

Location adds a bit of fun to the mix. That’s why it’s so fun to have sex in a new apartment or hotel.

There are new things to explore within it, like different mattresses, bean bags, tables, and mirrors.

You don’t need to get a new apartment or hotel to add variety (though it can certainly help for a night or too if you want to make things extra adventurous).

You can add variety by having sex in different rooms within your apartment – like the kitchen or on the living room couch – or even in public. For many girls, public sex adds a whole new level of excitement.

Wrapping Up How to Add Variety to Sex…

Variety is the spice of life, and it’s key to a great sex life too.

It keeps sex interesting, unpredictable, and filled with different kinds of sensations.

You should have variety within individual sex sessions, and also over the course of all your sex sessions with a girl.

To recap, here are some ways you can add more variety to sex…

– Alternate between different sex positions.

– Have sex at different times of day.

– Have sex for different durations.

– Watch porn to amplify the mood before and during sex.

– Use sex toys like blindfolds, handcuffs, and vibrators.

– Use varying levels of foreplay. Go for the full spectrum most of the time, but occasionally make it shorter or skip it altogether.

– Use varying levels of skin-to-skin contact.

– Switch up locations between different apartments, rooms, and public places.

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